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6 Ways to Overcome the Comparison Trap

Updated: Jul 17


Comparing ourselves to others is a common habit, one that often leads to feelings of frustration and inadequacy, rather than the motivation that so many of us desire and think it will bring. It's a trap that steals our joy and undermines our self-confidence. Fortunately, there are ways to break free from this cycle and reclaim our power. Here are six strategies to help you overcome the comparison trap:


1. Know Your Comparison Triggers 


Awareness is the first step towards change. Take note of the situations or individuals that trigger feelings of envy or comparison in you. Whether it's scrolling through social media or hearing about someone else's success, understanding your triggers can help you notice them in the moment, develop strategies to combat them, and choose healthier ways to respond.


2. Challenge the Accuracy & Helpfulness of Your Thoughts:


Negative self-talk often perpetuates the comparison trap. When you catch yourself engaging in thoughts like "I'm not good enough,” "I'll never measure up," or “Others are so much more accomplished than me,” challenge their accuracy and their helpfulness. Look for evidence that contradicts these beliefs and assess whether these thoughts are serving you positively or holding you back.


3. Keep a Log of your Achievements: 


We tend to downplay our accomplishments when comparing ourselves to others. Counteract this tendency by keeping a record of your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. You will likely be surprised with how many things you can come up with! Celebrate your victories and remind yourself of your progress whenever self-doubt creeps in.


4. Practice Daily Gratitude: 


Cultivating a sense of gratitude can shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. Start a gratitude journal or create a gratitude jar where you can regularly acknowledge the blessings in your life. When you find yourself falling into comparison mode, revisit your list of things to be thankful for to regain perspective.


5. View Envy as a Guide: 


The things that we tend to be envious about can sometimes be some of the biggest indicators for the things we value and want in our own lives. Instead of viewing successful individuals as threats, see them as sources of inspiration and motivation. Reach out to those you admire for advice and guidance, and use their achievements as benchmarks for your own growth. Embrace competition as a catalyst for improvement rather than a reason for comparison.


6. Embrace Self-Kindness: 


Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion you would offer to a friend. Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with words of encouragement and affirmation. Ask yourself: is your harsh self-talk really serving as motivation or does it actually paralyze you and make you feel worse? Most of us tend to be demotivated by negative self-talk, so it may be worth replacing self-depreciation with self-encouragement and kindness.


Final Thoughts


Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. By adopting these strategies, you can break free from the comparison trap and focus on building the life you deserve. It's time to reclaim your power and embrace your individuality. As Theodore Roosevelt wisely said, "Comparison is the thief of joy." So, let's choose joy instead.


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